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2023 is the year of mental health and wellbeing 

The most popular New Year's resolution was feeling better about ourselves. Here's how to keep this goal going.
Written by
Christine Mehta
Comic by
Natasha Loder
January 17, 2023
Read Time
3 min

The new year always feels like a time for reflection. On our routines, our habits, on resolutions we did or didn’t keep last year—the post-holiday respite holds promise and expectation. Maybe sometimes too many expectations. The Internet once dubbed today, January 17, the official “Ditch New Year’s Resolution Day.” Although abandoning a resolution after two weeks may be more a sign of unrealistic expectations than a lack of willpower, or so says the science.

This year could be different for the more than half of Americans who make New Year’s resolutions. The top resolution wasn’t the old familiars: eat better, exercise more, spend less money, or reduce alcohol intake. Improved mental health was the most common response to a Forbes survey, with 45 percent of respondents putting it as their top goal for 2023. Instead of avoiding the refrigerator and hitting the gym, we’re looking for advice on how to combat loneliness, strengthen our relationships, and be more at peace with ourselves—without remaking ourselves.

With the nation’s rising rates of depression, anxiety, and chronic loneliness in mind, we’ve pulled together ideas on making and keeping resolutions, improving mental health, and deepening our relationships this year.

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Why science says relationships are so important for health

A growing body of evidence suggests people with stronger social ties live longer and express greater satisfaction with their lives. The CDC warns the health risks of loneliness and social isolation are just as serious as those associated with smoking or obesity.

  • Robert Waldinger, Harvard Study of Adult Development director and psychiatrist, gave a recent TED interview outlining how to build up our social fitness.
  • Also remember that while spending virtual time with friends and family is important, it’s not enough.

The science of wellness, not weight loss

Our physical health also affects our mental health. But all too often shame, guilt and sheer exhaustion take over when we try to prioritize eating “right” and exercising. If this is where you find yourself, the scientific evidence is overwhelming: step away from your diet plan.

  • Severe or strict diets can lead to eating disorders, a slower metabolism, or other health issues. Experts recommend switching to healthy carbs and whole foods from processed ones, rather than counting calories. One study showed that people who cut back on processed and refined foods lost weight after one year, without watching their calorie intake.
  • Try “intuitive” eating instead of diets, says psychotherapist Andrea Wachter on The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos.
  • You don’t need to go to the gym every day, just remember to move.
  • Knowing when to quit is just as important as knowing when to stick with a goal.

And finally, check out “One Weakling’s Quest to Become a Gym Rat,” if you need some inspiration, or just a good laugh.

Christine Mehta
Christine Mehta is the senior editor for ideas and opinions at Harvard Public Health. Read more from Christine Mehta.
Natasha Loder
Natasha Loder
Natasha Loder is the health policy editor at The Economist and a cartoonist. Read more from Natasha Loder.

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